This concept is taught by almost all programs
which are devoted to dealing with substance abuse or emotional conflict
of any kind. The reason that it is so often quoted is that it is
universally applicable to almost any traumatic situation.
Dealing with quitting smoking is no exception. Along
with NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!, ONE DAY AT A TIME is the key technique
which gives the smoker the strength to successfully quit smoking
and stay free from the powerful grip of nicotine dependence.
When first quitting, the concept of ONE DAY AT A TIME
is clearly superior to the smoker thinking that he will never smoke
again for the rest of his life. For when the smoker is first giving
up smoking, he does not know whether or not he wants to go the rest
of his life without smoking. Most of the time the smoker envisions
life as a non-smoker as more stressful, painful, and less fun.
It is not until he quits smoking that he realizes
his prior thoughts of what life is like as a non-smoker were wrong.
Once he quits he realizes that there is life after smoking. It is
a cleaner, calmer, fuller and, most important, healthier life. Now
the thought of returning to smoking becomes a repulsive concept.
Even though the fears have reversed, the ONE DAY AT A TIME technique
should still be maintained.
Now, as an ex-smoker, he still has bad moments every
now and then. Sometimes due to stress at home or work, or pleasant
social situations, or to some other indefinable trigger situation,
the desire for a cigarette surfaces. All he needs to do is say to
himself, I won't smoke for the rest of today; tomorrow I will worry
about tomorrow. The urge will be over in seconds, and the next day
he probably won't even think of a cigarette.
But ONE DAY AT A TIME should not only be practiced
when an urge is present. It should be practiced daily. Sometimes
an ex-smoker thinks it is no longer important to think in these
terms. He goes on with the idea he will not smoke again for the
rest of his life. Assuming he is correct, when does he pat himself
on the back for achieving his goal? When he is lying on his deathbed
he can enthusiastically proclaim, "I never smoked again."
What a great time for positive reinforcement.
Every day the ex-smoker should wake up thinking that
he is not going to smoke that day. And every night before he goes
to sleep he should congratulate himself for sticking to his goal.
Because pride is important in staying free from cigarettes. Not
only is it important, but it is well deserved. For anyone who has
quit smoking has broken free from a very powerful addiction. For
the first time in years, he has gained control over his life, rather
than being controlled by his cigarette. For this, he should be proud.
So tonight, when you go to sleep, pat yourself on
the back and say, "Another day without smoking, I feel great."
And tomorrow when you wake up, say, "I am going to try for
another day. Tomorrow I will deal with tomorrow." To successfully
stay free from smoking, TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME and - NEVER TAKE
ANOTHER PUFF!
Joel Spitzer
Copyright © Joel Spitzer
Source: www.WhyQuit.com
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